Introducing Sex Toys Into the Bedroom
Introducing sex toys into the bedroom is one of the, if not, the main reason as to why I have my online shop designed the way it is.
I don't want for people to feel seedy when thinking about dabbling in toys, I don't want people to feel as if they are doing wrong when fantasising about their desires, I don't want people to feel embarrassed when talking about sex toys and I don't want you to be missing out.
Introducing sex toys into the bedroom can be a subject that's somewhat daunting when approaching your partner, especially to those who are new to the world of toys. Now, despite the world of sex toys flourishing, especially over the last few years, there is still a wealth of people that still believe this involves large rubber dongs replacing their loved ones, which in turn can cause feelings of inadequacy and unnecessary friction. The objective of this article is to help you through this and show you that this rarely is the case.
To begin with, you need to know that toys come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, textures, colours and prices to suit you. They aren't there to point out that there is something missing or wrong with your sex life, in fact, very much the opposite. They are used by everyday men and women. In fact, I'd bet that you'd be surprised by the amount of people you know who dabble.
Step 1 - Bringing it up
As discussed already, it seems that it can be somewhat daunting approaching your partner and explaining that you have an inner desire to use a sex toy with them. In many respects, you want to appeal to their better nature. You need to be sympathetic to their feelings and approach the subject in a causal way outside the bedroom. I.e. don't think your being spontaneous and ask them just after having sex! Ideally, ask them in an environment that you both feel relaxed and don't do it amongst friends. With that said, when I first discussed the prospect of introducing toys into my relationship, I had built up this overwhelming feeling of nervousness and I guess, anxiety, which seems a little silly once I had finally popped thequestion.
Step 2 - Educate
The second hurdle we girls have is to educate our other halves in that when he thinks sex toy, his mind shouldn't automatically arrive at a huge realistic looking penis. I have hand-picked everything that you see on this website and I can assure you that some of the best-pleasuring couples toys include; Noa, Tiani, We-Vibe, Tor and Gigi, none of which even look like penises. Whilst looking through the website, I have no doubt that the taboo of sex toys will already begin to diminish. The thought process of Sex Toy = Big Rubber Willy will move, surprisingly quickly (especially for first timers) to €That looks odd!' to €What do you do with that?' to €That looks nice', €I like that' to €What about this one? € and then €I really like the look of that!'
Step 3 - Where to begin?
I'd suggest that if you are both very new to the world of sex toys, your best bet would be to look at something easy going like Lelo's Tor 2 Vibrating Cock Ring as it is unobtrusive, packs a nice little punch and really easy to use. Make sure that the little vibrator is facing upwards and you'll find that he will last longer and you'll both be experiencing something new and fun! The next step up would be, what is known as, an outer stim vibrator. Using either of Lelo's Nea or Lily as an example, they, whilst still being unobtrusive, let your partner open up to different experiences and helps them understand that different parts of your body has different levels of sensitivity. If you are looking to jump a bit close to the deep end, the I'd suggest something more along the lines of Lelo's Elise or better yet Ina. Elise falls under the classic vibrator, whereas the Ina has an couple of added extras. It is specially designed for the infamous G-Spot and stimulates the clitoris at the same time.
Step 4 - Lubricants
With that said, we'd also suggest that you use lubricants as they make the experience so much better. Your sense tend to heighten and your toys will feel even smoother. But, before you do go off and purchase your lube, have a read of our Lube Guide as I'm sure you'll learn a lot and be all the more thankful that you did. As both of you become more familiar with what you do and don't like, you'll find yourselves edging further into ticklers, blindfolds and cuffs. You'll find that the further you edge, the more your sense heighten.
Step 5 - Don't forget
Last but not least don't forget to talk and experiment with one another because I wouldn't want for you to be missing out on the fun that us every day people are having.
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